Sunrises and Sunsets: Final Affairs Forged with Flair, Finesse, and FUNctionality---
What Readers Are Saying...
"For many of us, planning our own death is never easy and often avoided; but in a delightful and engaging way, Holley Kelley shows how planning for death enables us to live more fully. Her fresh perspective has produced a one-of-a-kind book that provides plenty of practical advice while also encouraging us to document our legacy and ensure our desires are heard and fulfilled. I will advise all of my clients and friends to get a copy of this book and use it throughout the years. You, and the people you love, will be glad you did!"
"Holley Kelley provides clear, logical guidelines for getting one's affairs in order while there is still time. Her lively writing style, wit, verve, and generosity of spirit make the process a surprising adventure."
Fortunately Holley Kelley has created a marvelous resource that can help you and those whom you love have a thoughtful and honest conversation about how to live and die well...This book is a workbook--a way of collecting and assembling important information, and providing a way of having the kind of conversation where our deepest hopes are expressed, and our greatest longings shared...This workbook belongs in the hands of the young and old. In short, all of us who want to live well."
~Rev. Laura Sumner Truax, Senior Pastor, LaSalle Street Church
Author, Undone: When Coming Apart Puts You Back Together, Intervarsity Press 2013
"Through her narrative discussions, checklists, and practical approach, Holley Kelley helps us navigate end-of-life issues in a way that simply works! Sunrises and Sunsets helps define and plan our final journey, in a gentle and entertaining format. She is both an instructive and valued guide for anyone who wishes to get their affairs in order!"
Gary Gartner, CEO / SpaceFlight Memorial Systems
Holley Kelley is a brilliant light in helping people --individuals and their families--prepare for all of the end-of-life transitions.
She has created an illuminating book and workshops that take the fear, resistance and intimidation out of preparing.
She provides a roadmap for clearing up anything that is unfinished business, leaving one free and confident of one's legacy and providing loved ones everything they need.
Most of all, she really cares about her clients and helping people. She really does make latter-life planning fun and easy. You can't miss by connecting with her, listening to her radio show or buying her book! Consider Holley a real gift to yourself!
Founder: Conscious Media Relations
Author: Practical Conscious Creations: Daily Techniques to Manifest Your Desires
"I read this book in preparation for my radio show where Holley was my guest. I would never have expected the book to motivate me to look at end of life planning in a non-morbid way. Yes, the book does help us plan our eventual end, but it does make it a point to highlight how we can live in the now and responsibly take care of our affairs so that we do not leave any additional stress on those we leave behind. Really enjoyed it."
Founder: The Wellness Ultimatum
"Sometimes in life you come across something that you never knew you were missing until you find it. This book is just one of those things...This is a must-have item to take stock of your own life at any age and help not only yourself but those you must inevitably leave behind."
~Ginger Ragans, M.S., C.P.G., CAPS
"There is something so unique about how Holley Kelley approaches death and the act of dying – her voice comes through with caring compassion and common sense. Sunrises and Sunsets helps us deal with our own life and death from a powerful perspective…our own.
As Holley reminds us, although we may not have control over when we die, we have control over what we have to say about it. She gives us a chance to have “Nothing Left Unsaid”.
From creating a Bucket List (and a “Kick-the-Bucket” list!), to writing an obituary, finalizing advanced directives, wills, final wishes, and your own memorial service, Holley shows us that taking care of these final responsibilities for ourselves can be a worthwhile and powerful experience. Plus, it helps relieve our loved ones of having to cobble together the final pieces of our life as we are dying and after we are long gone.
This is a great book – for family reunions, book club gatherings, a workshop evening with close friends, or spending a rainy Saturday morning by yourself, thinking through the rest of your life."
Rev. Beverly Molander, ordained minister through Centers for Spiritual Living, host of “Affirmative Prayer – Activating the Power of Yes” on Unity Online Radio, and co-author of Heartfelt Memorial Services – Your Guide for Planning Meaningful Funerals, Celebrations of Life, and Times of Remembrance.
"Holley Kelley has taken the fear out of what some consider a taboo subject... planning for your death. Sunrises and Sunsets is a comprehensive guide covering the full cycle of end of life planning.
The book is an outline for living life as well as planning your final affairs. Who would have thought of creating a bucket list before planning for the end?
Let's face it, none of us are getting out of here alive so why not plan in advance to eliminate some of the stress and pain for your loved ones during a very painful time.
Baby boomers will benefit greatly using the information contained within for themselves and for their parents. No one is too young to embrace the concept of planning out their life. This book is imperative for anyone who does not have anyone to look after their final affairs.
The feel throughout the book is soft and easy like a beautiful sunrise or sunset. One feels a certain level of comfort while reading the material.
I wish this book was available when my mother was dying of lung cancer and Alzheimer's. All of her wishes would have been captured in one place. It would have make it a lot easier to follow her final wishes because everything would have been written beforehand even her obituary!
This body off work is priceless! Presented in a workbook style to easily capture and keep all of your precious information for your loved one."
Intuitive Consultant/Radio Show Host
"Your book and your work are of immeasurable value to all ages - the journey upon which you take your readers would be well taken every 10 years or so - not so much as a prep to leave - but a prep to live - in fullness. Thank you for your work..."
Dr. Pamela Brewer
Radio Show Host 20 years and counting!
Volume 42, No. 2 • March 2016
www.adec.org ~ March 2016
ADEC News / What’s New From ADEC Members
By The Rev. Paul A. Metzler, DMin
Sunrises and Sunsets: Final Affairs Forged with Flair, Finesse and FUNctionality.
Bandon, OR: Robert D. Reed Publishers, 2016. isbn: 978-1-934759-97-4.
Softcover, 211 pages.
"Kelley has written a colorful, engaging resource guide for adults to do the responsible thing: plan for their eventual death now so that loved ones do not need to wonder what their wishes were or be burdened with unnecessary decisions and complexities.
Its three sections (1: The Sun Rises and the Sun Sets!; 2: Leave It To You!; 3: Nothing Left Unsaid—Love, Live, Celebrate!) guide the user through the many aspects of planning for the reality of dying and death. These include the obvious need for Advance Directives, but also identifying aspirations and life goals, drafting one’s own obituary, plans for funding the funeral and carrying out the ceremony.
She provides lots of suggestions and fill-in the blank spaces for the many legal, financial, personal and business details that follow a death.
This book can be used by an individual but would also be a good tool for group education and workshops."
"My father had just passed away at age 94 when I was introduced to Sunrises and Sunsets. Holley Kelley's honest voice reached out to me in every chapter of this informative and inspiring book about preparing for the end of life's journey."
~Andrea C. Birch, Ph.D., Dean,
College of Fine Arts and Humanities
Professor of Philosophy, Brenau University
"This book changed our life! When my mother was diagnosed with Cancer and given only a couple of months to live, I gave her this book. I feel it actually kept her alive longer. We spent a lot of time enjoying all of the different sections of this book. She would work on it alone sometimes and other times, I would help her complete it based on what she said. It was a great way us to spend time together and to face the reality of what was coming with peace of mind, grace and even laughter. It was a joy to share the experience of this book with her. Completing this book made her happy.
And after she passed, I handed it to the Chaplain and he had never seen such a detailed outline of what someone wanted for their funeral. I still treasure her beautiful entries today and I feel it helped both of us face the grief that came with these circumstances. A 20 out of 10! Thank you for writing this and sharing it with the world. It is spectacular!" ~The McNair Family
"Working on this book with Holley has been FUN, rewarding, and a life-enriching experience for me. Holley is the real deal. She is flexible, dedicated to making this book the best it can possibly can be, and is tireless in its production. I can hardly wait until the book is actually in print so I can gather a few of my friends together, start a group, and work the process together. I anticipate not only a very supportive, meaningful connection but one that will make it FUN and act as a cure for any tendencies to procrastinate. Who knows?! As a former therapist, I may end up leading several groups! This book definitely has the makings for a profound and practical outcome. I can't think of a better gift to leave my loved ones than the completion of this book and all of its suggestions."
~Cleone Reed, MSE, Graphic Designer,
Editor, and Production Manager, Robert D. Reed Publishers
"Holley Kelley's book addresses what remains after we are gone...our legacies! Whether we are aware of it or not, we create our legacies by the way we live and what we do each day of our lives. Sunrises and Sunsets is a great tool for those who choose to plan for their Final Sunset, as well as articulate their legacies with and on purpose. This do-it-yourself guide book is a must for all who want to leave a clear picture of who they are, as well as what they want, for those they care about and for generations to follow."
~James F. (Buddy) Thomas, Jr. - Founder Chief Planning Officer,
Superior Planning, Inc., providing Multi-Generational Family
Wealth and Relationship Management assistance since 1982,
Author of The Coming Widow Boom
"What a GREAT book this is! So many people fail to prepare for their final sunset! Sunrises and Sunsets will help anyone overcome that obstacle! Holley's informative work sheets are easy to follow and this book is an enjoyable process from beginning to end! We have completed many of the suggestions in this book, and the ones overlooked are now underway! We will undoubtedly be recommending this book to all of our friends and relatives! Thank you for informing us of this unique and wonderful book so we can share it with others!"
~Bob and Cynthia DeTorres
"With more 'senior citizens' alive on the planet than at any other time, greater percentages of those of us who are of age to qualify for membership in that group have a life expectancy far exceeding that of our parents and grandparents. In my own experience, I have outlived my father by 20 years and my mother by a decade. As a group we do see the end of life as part of a life. Yet, many times we are no more prepared for this inevitability than our parents were. It is not that we mind so much thinking about moving on as it is that we don't really know how to think about it. Holley Kelley has provided us with an amazing guidebook that is both sensible and senstive to help us with our departure and journey, easing the anxiety and fear with simplicity and demystification.
~David Morrison, Director of Communications & Publications, Brenau University